optimism
i genuinely think being optimistic takes you way further in life. im not really a happy person by nature, but i still try to be happy almost every day. like even if you sit there and cry, no one’s just gonna come up and be like “hey let me fix all your problems” right? so i guess we just have to learn how to be okay on our own. actually check in with ourselves. like “how am i feeling today?” oh bad? hmm… maybe i’ll do my favorite thing then". i do think about this a lot. almost every day. and sometimes when im sad i dont even know what im supposed to do anymore. but whatever. i still wanna try. lets just be happy. every day if we can.
relationships
tbh relationships arent even that hard. it’s just that some people make them hard. to me loving someone is seeing all their flaws and still choosing them anyway. like we dont need to go on dates every single day sometimes a simple “how was your day?” text is more than enough. what actually matters is being there when your person is going through things. we all have our own lives, our own responsibilities, our own stuff to deal with. and honestly, relationships shouldnt be the main priority of your life. they’re more like sugar, salt, or kimchi you know what i mean. they add flavor, but they’re not the whole meal. so yeah. if you really want a long-term thingy, dont pressure them with all your problems and expectations. everyone loves differently, and learning to understand that is part of loving someone at all.
